Wife as boss?

In the car on the way home from school, I informed Olivia, “We’re going to take a family walk then watch a family movie together tonight. That’s the plan.”

“I don’t want to walk. I’m tired,” came the expected and worn response. She means she would rather look at her videos or game apps.

Head of household!

“Daddy said this is what we’re doing, and because we’re a patriarchy, we have to do what he says,” I joked in my dry humor way. Claus, in the driver’s seat (figuratively and literally!), looked at me with bemused disbelief.

“I thought you were the boss, Mommy?” she asked.

“Well, that’s a sticky wicket, Honey. The wife can be the boss, but it’s best achieved if she lets the man think he is,” I elaborated.

She was thoroughly confused. I know. It’s confusing.

“We can work on that over the next couple decades, Sweetie,” I placated. “I’ll teach you.”

Diane Ako

Peace of mind By Diane Ako I like to reflect on life. Sometimes it’s philosophically. Sometimes it’s humorously. For all its beauty, life is far too difficult a journey to take alone. You need the support and connection with others to help carry you along the way. Writing brings me that connection– within and without. It clarifies my thoughts and feelings. It helps me reach out to others for advice, wisdom, or feedback. Your thoughts become your actions. Your actions become you. A wise yogi- Patanjali- said, “Speak what is true. Speak what is pleasant.” Let’s speak of things pleasant to one another and seek some peace of mind along the way. ABOUT Diane Ako joined Hawaii: In Real Life in October 2016. She likes being part of a community of local bloggers – people who like writing and sharing, like she does. Ako is an anchor/ reporter at Island News (KITV4 – ABC) in Honolulu. She previously anchored and reported at KHON2 (FOX) and KHNL (NBC), and at stations in California, New Mexico, and Pennsylvania. She freelance writes for NMG Network's magazines. In between news jobs, in 2017, she launched and ran her own p.r. company, Diane Ako PR. From 2010-2014, she headed the public relations department at Halekulani Corporation, which oversees luxury resort Halekulani and boutique hotel Waikiki Parc. She’s been blogging since 2009 – before Hawaii: IRL, she wrote for The Honolulu Star-Advertiser, the state’s largest daily newspaper, where her stories garnered a dozen journalism awards and an Emmy nomination. Ako has a BA in Communications from Menlo College and an MA in Political Science from University of Hawaii at Manoa. She volunteers as a board member of the Honolulu Gay & Lesbian Cultural Foundation, a Shinto shrine maiden at Daijingyu Temple, a citizen-scientist studying shrimp, and a yoga teacher at a senior center.

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2 thoughts on “Wife as boss?

  • June 19, 2017 at 11:02 am
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    Hello Diane,
    I can relate to that, my wife is the BOSS at my house too.

    Reply

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