Insomnia threatens marital bed

My poor husband. I have insomnia now, ever since I quit my early morning job.

My body is having a hard time adjusting to a normal routine, so often I wake as early as 3 a.m. or at night, I toss and turn in bed through midnight. It is making him crazy.

I see a lot of night sky lately. (November 14, 2016 supermoon)
I see a lot of night sky lately. (November 14, 2016 supermoon)

I exercise at least a half hour on most days, but it’s not a guarantee of restful sleep… yet. Odd.

For two years when I worked on a morning news programme, Claus chose to sleep in the guest room so he wouldn’t be awoken by my 3 a.m. alarm, and so he wouldn’t bother me when I was trying to fall asleep at 6:30 p.m.

Now that it’s over, he thought it safe to return to the master bedroom. He was wrong! He’s been waiting patiently for my body to figure it out, but he’s literally losing sleep over it.

I lie down, fidget restlessly, and rise again one or more times at night. I watch Netflix. I drink decaf tea. I take a melatonin pill. I do yoga in my yoga room. Sometimes these are all separate trips.

I think I tiptoe back in but the acoustics in my house are fantastic (read: thin walls) and he hears me. I finally asked him on one sleepless occasion, “Do you hate sleeping with me yet?”

“What do you mean, ‘sleeping?’” he quipped.

Oh, long suffering husband. I would absolutely not be surprised if the guest room finds itself with my husband as the regular guest again – at least for a little while longer until I settle into what used to be a reliably great sleeping routine!

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Diane Ako

Peace of mind By Diane Ako I like to reflect on life. Sometimes it’s philosophically. Sometimes it’s humorously. For all its beauty, life is far too difficult a journey to take alone. You need the support and connection with others to help carry you along the way. Writing brings me that connection– within and without. It clarifies my thoughts and feelings. It helps me reach out to others for advice, wisdom, or feedback. Your thoughts become your actions. Your actions become you. A wise yogi- Patanjali- said, “Speak what is true. Speak what is pleasant.” Let’s speak of things pleasant to one another and seek some peace of mind along the way. ABOUT Diane Ako joined Hawaii: In Real Life in October 2016. She likes being part of a community of local bloggers – people who like writing and sharing, like she does. Ako is an anchor/ reporter at Island News (KITV4 – ABC) in Honolulu. She previously anchored and reported at KHON2 (FOX) and KHNL (NBC), and at stations in California, New Mexico, and Pennsylvania. She freelance writes for NMG Network's magazines. In between news jobs, in 2017, she launched and ran her own p.r. company, Diane Ako PR. From 2010-2014, she headed the public relations department at Halekulani Corporation, which oversees luxury resort Halekulani and boutique hotel Waikiki Parc. She’s been blogging since 2009 – before Hawaii: IRL, she wrote for The Honolulu Star-Advertiser, the state’s largest daily newspaper, where her stories garnered a dozen journalism awards and an Emmy nomination. Ako has a BA in Communications from Menlo College and an MA in Political Science from University of Hawaii at Manoa. She volunteers as a board member of the Honolulu Gay & Lesbian Cultural Foundation, a Shinto shrine maiden at Daijingyu Temple, a citizen-scientist studying shrimp, and a yoga teacher at a senior center.

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4 thoughts on “Insomnia threatens marital bed

  • January 5, 2017 at 11:29 am

    Trying sleeping with someone who does not sleep at all excepted when I was to get up for work 3:00am

    • January 5, 2017 at 11:48 am

      Hilarious. Yes, a 3 a.m. wake up can be rough. It was for me. So maybe you and I should have been housemates for a time, and Chris could’ve lived with Claus in the home that he renovated anyway.

  • January 6, 2017 at 10:10 am

    I know what this feels like I have been driving a city bus fir 26 years. I rise as early as 1 or 2 am on many occasions to report fir work, I hurt my back 2 years ago n my scheduke and bidy just wont get right. I still arise at 3 am most mornings going back to sleep at 6 or 7 thats usually a break time sleeping till 11 oe 12 still jumping up like I have to report back to work. I try going to sleep early but I gotta watch my news before I sleep this schedule is drivinf me nuts 2 years and it still has not changed. What do u do?

    • January 6, 2017 at 12:34 pm

      It’s hard – I know. So many factors into deciding to quit. Thanks, though, for taking Hawaii’s people around on their early morning commutes.


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