I am Man: When Husband wants to fix sink himself

My sink broke. Olivia noticed it was leaking into the cabinet, so my husband trouble shot it and turned off the water line.

I was proud of him for handling it immediately, though really, there is no choice when it comes to leaking water. He said he would fix it. It sat like that for months.

Here’s the thing about Claus: he’s not really handy. He is now teaching himself to be handier, but for years and years, he would just pick up the phone and call a professional.

He’s really smart. He can do anything he puts his mind to. His mind would just rather be doing other things like tri-training, drinking wine, or just about anything else.

I’m not sure what’s gotten into him lately but people evolve and I support his desire to be Mr. Fix It. Even if it means sharing a bathroom with him for weeks on end.

Here are all the steps he took to get it fixed:

Work up desire to take on this project for a few days.
Find faucet box (In attic? Garage?) to see if it’s covered by warranty.
Let box sit on his makeshift (and wife-unapproved) workspace on the kitchen counter for a few more days.
Get around to reading paperwork inside box.
Call manufacturer for new sink part.
Receive box, let it sit on workspace for another few days before opening.
Let new faucet part sit on counter for a couple days; must be like how you aerate red wine before drinking.
First attempt at fixing: the part is wrong!
Get upset and drink glass of wine.
Mail back part and get new part from manufacturer.
Receive box. Let it sleep with dog on porch overnight because everyone too lazy to bring box in house.
The part is correct! Drive to hardware store to get plumber’s putty.
Wait to fix sink until he’s sweaty from a six miler; might as well do everything sweaty at one time!
Second attempt at fixing: curse because putty is somehow wrong, refuse to fight traffic back to the store that day.
Get correct plumber’s putty.

Total time elapsed: 9 weeks

My stuff sat out on the bedroom floor for so long, I started to not “see” it anymore. Need cotton swabs, walk towards closet. Time for new bottle of shampoo, look by the dresser. Normal, right?

I didn’t really pester him. He’ll do it when he does it.

By the way, custom sink handmade by Jen Chun of Hawaii Kiln Glass!

Plus, I figure sharing a bathroom with two females is incentive enough. I think he was wholly unprepared for the invasion of girl stuff: rubber bands, brushes, makeup, mirrors, hair clips, hair smoother, hair spray, perfume, lip balm, lotions, essential oils, and way, way more.

Not to mention the insane amount of hair on the ground. I alone shed so many hair strands I have to sweep the floor every day. I’m not balding. I just have a lot of hair.

I don’t know why he didn’t give up halfway through. I know it drove him nuts.

I think it was some version of how men won’t stop the car to ask for directions. At some point, it became a Man Challenge.

That’s fine. This house has a lot more challenges for him. Two electrical outlets just died and the dishwasher is making a funny sound.

I’ll just cheer quietly from the side and have his glass of wine waiting.

Diane Ako

Peace of mind By Diane Ako I like to reflect on life. Sometimes it’s philosophically. Sometimes it’s humorously. For all its beauty, life is far too difficult a journey to take alone. You need the support and connection with others to help carry you along the way. Writing brings me that connection– within and without. It clarifies my thoughts and feelings. It helps me reach out to others for advice, wisdom, or feedback. Your thoughts become your actions. Your actions become you. A wise yogi- Patanjali- said, “Speak what is true. Speak what is pleasant.” Let’s speak of things pleasant to one another and seek some peace of mind along the way. ABOUT Diane Ako joined Hawaii: In Real Life in October 2016. She likes being part of a community of local bloggers – people who like writing and sharing, like she does. Ako is an anchor/ reporter at Island News (KITV4 – ABC) in Honolulu. She previously anchored and reported at KHON2 (FOX) and KHNL (NBC), and at stations in California, New Mexico, and Pennsylvania. She freelance writes for NMG Network's magazines. In between news jobs, in 2017, she launched and ran her own p.r. company, Diane Ako PR. From 2010-2014, she headed the public relations department at Halekulani Corporation, which oversees luxury resort Halekulani and boutique hotel Waikiki Parc. She’s been blogging since 2009 – before Hawaii: IRL, she wrote for The Honolulu Star-Advertiser, the state’s largest daily newspaper, where her stories garnered a dozen journalism awards and an Emmy nomination. Ako has a BA in Communications from Menlo College and an MA in Political Science from University of Hawaii at Manoa. She volunteers as a board member of the Honolulu Gay & Lesbian Cultural Foundation, a Shinto shrine maiden at Daijingyu Temple, a citizen-scientist studying shrimp, and a yoga teacher at a senior center.

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6 thoughts on “I am Man: When Husband wants to fix sink himself

  • December 24, 2016 at 5:57 am

    i’m a day late and a dollar short but I finally made my way to your new location. Merry Christmas to you,Olivia,Claus and of course your lovely Mama. Please don’t let Claus near the electrical outlets. Be safe and call a pro.

    • December 24, 2016 at 11:23 am

      You know what? I”m just happy you followed me here! Thanks 🙂

  • December 26, 2016 at 2:57 pm

    I read the story to chris and he lol but he can call still chris for advice if he gets stuck

  • December 26, 2016 at 3:55 pm

    Hello Diane, I’m a handyman, jack of all trades. I can do plumbing, carpentry, electrical, masonry, tile, painting and even fix cars and other mechanical things. My wife is lucky.


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