A day bed in the living room spells failure

I put a daybed (Hawaiian: punee) in the living room. My husband thinks it’s awful.

He protested the idea. I pulled the Wife Card.

By daybed, I mean twin bed from one of the guest rooms. No pretty frame around it to make it appear like furniture for awake people.

Foreground: daybed with Jens Rasmussen on it. SEE HOW USEFUL?!  Background: Olivia and friends on sofa.

So basically, it’s a bed, but saying “daybed” makes it exotic sounding. I can dress it up with words.

At first, I attempted to conform to some kind of interior decoration aspiration by putting a king size, solid colored sheet over the whole thing. It looked like a big blue ottoman.

Over time, though, it gradually started looking more like what it is: a bed. It’s tucked in the back corner of the living room so it’s not in the “main” sitting area. That makes it better?

One night, I had insomnia, so I ended up skulking around the living room for hours and then I slept on the bed. Now it has a big blanket on it.

I’m going for total comfort. I don’t care what our occasional guests think.

The people who come are our friends, anyway. We don’t host business functions.

Here’s what I like about it:

It’s where Olivia and I lie down to watch Netflix.

For slumber parties, the kids sleep in the living room. This comes in handy.

The bed is high – taller than any other bed or sofa we have. It meets Claus’ hand height, so he doesn’t have to bend over much to massage me. Really, I am just thinking about him.

There are two sofas plus this punee in the living room, so each of our family members can have a horizontal space. Otherwise, I would end up cramped on sofa with someone.

When my family has friends over, I can lie there and be semi-social yet blissfully horizontal (if they aren’t already; see photo.)

I’ve owned real daybeds and futon sofas before, and I prefer a bed. I don’t like hitting my limbs on the wood or metal backboards that usually frame two of the mattress sides, and I find them less springy.

Here’s what I regret:

It’s not so much that having a full on bed in the living room looks rather, uh, ghetto. It’s that it means I’ve given up. It’s the house version of a person who stops brushing their hair and putting on matching clothes before leaving the house.

I complete relinquish any effort to make the pages of House Beautiful. I try to keep the house tidy and I often fail. I used to try to make the house socially acceptable (to adults) and I’m tired of trying.

What comes next? Elastic waistbands? No-wrinkle polyester?

Oh well. (Olivia and) I like it and that’s that. We can always move it out when we’re tired of it. Maybe I’ll just lie down on that punee and mull it over.

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Diane Ako

Peace of mind By Diane Ako I like to reflect on life. Sometimes it’s philosophically. Sometimes it’s humorously. For all its beauty, life is far too difficult a journey to take alone. You need the support and connection with others to help carry you along the way. Writing brings me that connection– within and without. It clarifies my thoughts and feelings. It helps me reach out to others for advice, wisdom, or feedback. Your thoughts become your actions. Your actions become you. A wise yogi- Patanjali- said, “Speak what is true. Speak what is pleasant.” Let’s speak of things pleasant to one another and seek some peace of mind along the way. ABOUT Diane Ako joined Hawaii: In Real Life in October 2016. She likes being part of a community of local bloggers – people who like writing and sharing, like she does. Ako is an anchor/ reporter at Island News (KITV4 – ABC) in Honolulu. She previously anchored and reported at KHON2 (FOX) and KHNL (NBC), and at stations in California, New Mexico, and Pennsylvania. She freelance writes for NMG Network's magazines. In between news jobs, in 2017, she launched and ran her own p.r. company, Diane Ako PR. From 2010-2014, she headed the public relations department at Halekulani Corporation, which oversees luxury resort Halekulani and boutique hotel Waikiki Parc. She’s been blogging since 2009 – before Hawaii: IRL, she wrote for The Honolulu Star-Advertiser, the state’s largest daily newspaper, where her stories garnered a dozen journalism awards and an Emmy nomination. Ako has a BA in Communications from Menlo College and an MA in Political Science from University of Hawaii at Manoa. She volunteers as a board member of the Honolulu Gay & Lesbian Cultural Foundation, a Shinto shrine maiden at Daijingyu Temple, a citizen-scientist studying shrimp, and a yoga teacher at a senior center.

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2 thoughts on “A day bed in the living room spells failure

  • May 1, 2017 at 6:47 am

    Punee in the living room seems perfectly normal. Isn’t that how everyone in Hawai’i grew up? It takes care of the over flow of cousins, aunties,uncles or extended ohana who spend the night. (and sometimes never leave.)
    “What comes next?” As long as it isn’t a fanny pack you’re safe.


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