New book encourages strength after hardships

No matter what kind of career you’ve chosen, you’re going to deal with discouragement, frustration, and situations that are, shall we say, less than ideal. It could be a job interview that goes nowhere. Or a book that gets rejected…48 times and counting. Or a vicious one-star review that rattles your self-esteem and makes you question your talent, your identity, everything.

Courtesy: Mango Media

“You’re Going to Survive by Alexandra Franzen: How to survive adversity, criticism, rejection and defeat” is a new book that compiles inspiring true stories from all kinds of people―authors, chefs, lawyers, website designers, Broadway performers, personal stylists, jazz musicians, business consultants, non-profit fundraisers, and more― each describing one of the worst moments in their entire career, and how they got through it. 

Her chapters are organized by theme: when you didn’t get the job you wanted, when someone rips you on the Internet, when your boss or client is disappointed, when you feel unimportant, and when you feel too tired to reach your goals. I have been through all of that and then some.

Most of the advice is something I had already figured out before reading the book. The general summary is: dust yourself off and move on. Learn from it and improve. Can disappointments be a blessing in disguise?

What I really liked, though, is the sort-of group commiseration that normalizes my negative experiences. Other people went through this! They repaired themselves the same way! It’s nice to know it’s not just me when sometimes, it sure feels like it!

Page 31 has a very interesting paragraph that sticks with me most. Interviewee Ben Wendel said he’s read about “monks in Tibet who pray for a life that includes suffering, because they know that true wisdom only comes through life’s challenges.” If that’s true, I’m a shoo-in for Mensa.

Each chapter is filled with honesty, humor, and heartfelt encouragement to help you stay motivated, keep marching, and never give up―even when things feel incredibly tough. No matter what’s going on in your career or life right now, this isn’t the end of your story. You’re going to survive.

List Price: $18.95

ISBN-13: 978-1633536791

View the book on Mango Media

Diane Ako

Peace of mind By Diane Ako I like to reflect on life. Sometimes it’s philosophically. Sometimes it’s humorously. For all its beauty, life is far too difficult a journey to take alone. You need the support and connection with others to help carry you along the way. Writing brings me that connection– within and without. It clarifies my thoughts and feelings. It helps me reach out to others for advice, wisdom, or feedback. Your thoughts become your actions. Your actions become you. A wise yogi- Patanjali- said, “Speak what is true. Speak what is pleasant.” Let’s speak of things pleasant to one another and seek some peace of mind along the way. ABOUT Diane Ako joined Hawaii: In Real Life in October 2016. She likes being part of a community of local bloggers – people who like writing and sharing, like she does. Ako is an anchor/ reporter at Island News (KITV4 – ABC) in Honolulu. She previously anchored and reported at KHON2 (FOX) and KHNL (NBC), and at stations in California, New Mexico, and Pennsylvania, In between news jobs, in 2017, she launched and ran her own p.r. company, Diane Ako PR. From 2010-2014, she headed the public relations department at Halekulani Corporation, which oversees luxury resort Halekulani and boutique hotel Waikiki Parc. She’s been blogging since 2009 – before Hawaii: IRL, she wrote for The Honolulu Star-Advertiser, the state’s largest daily newspaper, where her stories garnered a dozen journalism awards and an Emmy nomination. Ako has a BA in Communications from Menlo College and an MA in Political Science from University of Hawaii at Manoa. One day, she might figure out how to put that master’s degree to use.

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