Five tips for raising children

Richard Greenberg, best-selling author of “Raising Children Other People Like to Be Around” offers these   philosophical tips that will pay dividends for years to come including:

Lead by example: kids should be taught to leave a trail of people who have only nice things to say about them. Parents should model empathy and respect for others, exemplifying the mantra “what you do matters.”

• Give kids chores: several studies support the notion that doing regular chores has numerous developmental benefits and it doesn’t hurt to have a little help around the house.

• Monitor the progress of homework: it’s certainly a struggle, but “executive skills” (organization of time) will pay off when they enter the job market. Teach them how to use their planners and check them every once in a while. Encourage them to ask for help and be a teammate, not a boss. If need be, minimize the distractions: outlaw TV and other non-homework related electronics.

• Allow kids to struggle and even fail: even as one of the hardest challenges of parenting, everybody makes mistakes and parents should encourage their kids to learn from them. As W. E. Hickson said: “If at first you don’t succeed… try, try again.”

• Make sure they have time to get bored: for children, play is work. When they’re left to ponder, their imaginations kick in. Limit electronics during free time and don’t feel the need to entertain them. “Go bang your head against the wall until you think of something to do,” might be a good response to “I’m bored.”

Richard Greenberg is the Los Angeles based blogger of www.commonsensedad.com.

Diane Ako

Peace of mind By Diane Ako I like to reflect on life. Sometimes it’s philosophically. Sometimes it’s humorously. For all its beauty, life is far too difficult a journey to take alone. You need the support and connection with others to help carry you along the way. Writing brings me that connection– within and without. It clarifies my thoughts and feelings. It helps me reach out to others for advice, wisdom, or feedback. Your thoughts become your actions. Your actions become you. A wise yogi- Patanjali- said, “Speak what is true. Speak what is pleasant.” Let’s speak of things pleasant to one another and seek some peace of mind along the way. ABOUT Diane Ako joined Hawaii: In Real Life in October 2016. She likes being part of a community of local bloggers – people who like writing and sharing, like she does. Ako is an anchor/ reporter at Island News (KITV4 – ABC) in Honolulu. She previously anchored and reported at KHON2 (FOX) and KHNL (NBC), and at stations in California, New Mexico, and Pennsylvania, In between news jobs, in 2017, she launched and ran her own p.r. company, Diane Ako PR. From 2010-2014, she headed the public relations department at Halekulani Corporation, which oversees luxury resort Halekulani and boutique hotel Waikiki Parc. She’s been blogging since 2009 – before Hawaii: IRL, she wrote for The Honolulu Star-Advertiser, the state’s largest daily newspaper, where her stories garnered a dozen journalism awards and an Emmy nomination. Ako has a BA in Communications from Menlo College and an MA in Political Science from University of Hawaii at Manoa. One day, she might figure out how to put that master’s degree to use.

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