Don’t walk me to class, Mommy

As much as my nine-year-old is attached to me, I’m just as attached to her. I have – as often as my schedule allows – always enjoyed taking her to school, including walking her to class. As a housewife, my schedule allows it, so this is what I’ve been doing all year.

Lately, she’s told me I don’t need to walk her in because she now prefers to greet her friends and walk to class with them. They seem to have organized into a little routine where they all meet at the same area near the drop-off area. They socialize for all of ten minutes before the bell rings.

Olivia and her clique.

I know it’s normal and I’m glad for the slow process of independence. I’d be sadder if it wasn’t this way, really. 

Still, the mommy in me was a little sad when she first said this, and then started saying it regularly. At this point, I realize this is the new norm.

I liked holding her hand as we walked to class. I liked seeing the other kids who wave to her, or perhaps even me, because I’ve worked with them before as a volunteer. I liked depositing her safely in class and saying hi to the teacher. I liked being in that part of her world.

My husband thinks I’m funny. In the beginning I would slightly mope about it to him, that she didn’t need me as much. “My baby!” I whined. He would hug me and laugh, and promise me it’s OK.

And yeah, I know it is. It’s just like the little transitions I made when she broke free of breast feeding, when she started preschool, when she had her first sleep over, so on and so forth. My big girl!

She’ll learn and grow and need me even less over the years. I’ll be happy for her. But still: I’ve already warned her and her dad that she will always be my baby.

Diane Ako

Peace of mind By Diane Ako I like to reflect on life. Sometimes it’s philosophically. Sometimes it’s humorously. For all its beauty, life is far too difficult a journey to take alone. You need the support and connection with others to help carry you along the way. Writing brings me that connection– within and without. It clarifies my thoughts and feelings. It helps me reach out to others for advice, wisdom, or feedback. Your thoughts become your actions. Your actions become you. A wise yogi- Patanjali- said, “Speak what is true. Speak what is pleasant.” Let’s speak of things pleasant to one another and seek some peace of mind along the way. ABOUT Diane Ako joined Hawaii: In Real Life in October 2016. She likes being part of a community of local bloggers – people who like writing and sharing, like she does. Ako is an anchor/ reporter at Island News (KITV4 – ABC) in Honolulu. She previously anchored and reported at KHON2 (FOX) and KHNL (NBC), and at stations in California, New Mexico, and Pennsylvania, In between news jobs, in 2017, she launched and ran her own p.r. company, Diane Ako PR. From 2010-2014, she headed the public relations department at Halekulani Corporation, which oversees luxury resort Halekulani and boutique hotel Waikiki Parc. She’s been blogging since 2009 – before Hawaii: IRL, she wrote for The Honolulu Star-Advertiser, the state’s largest daily newspaper, where her stories garnered a dozen journalism awards and an Emmy nomination. Ako has a BA in Communications from Menlo College and an MA in Political Science from University of Hawaii at Manoa. One day, she might figure out how to put that master’s degree to use.

One thought on “Don’t walk me to class, Mommy

  • April 28, 2017 at 8:37 am
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    Hello Diane,

    It will be okay, she’s growing up.

    Reply

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