Adolescent sees mom as less and less cool

“I made new, cool friends this year. You are not allowed to talk to them,” instructed my sixth grader. 

“I’m polite when I pick you up. I just say hello and make small talk while you pack up,” I defended.

“You can only talk to the other friends that you’ve known from other years,” insisted this daughter of mine.

Loved. I feel so loved.

This whole set of rules as to what I can and cannot do around Olivia at school grows with each year. It’s amusing and slightly annoying.

Today, I picked her up and she was sitting with the Cool Kids. I smiled and waved at them but no words came out of my mouth. I refrained from kissing her (which has not been publicly reciprocated for a couple years now) or putting my arm around her shoulder. (That’s the demoted version of a hug, which has also been too embarrassing for a while now.)

We got to the car. “So, how’d I do today? I didn’t speak to anyone under age 30 and I didn’t touch you in public. Does that meet the approved list of interactions?” I half-joked.

“Yes,” nodded Olivia. 

I wonder if next year, I will be disallowed from even coming in the building to get her, or from identifying myself as her next-of-kin. Because, parents are so embarrassing, you know.

Diane Ako

Peace of mind By Diane Ako I like to reflect on life. Sometimes it’s philosophically. Sometimes it’s humorously. For all its beauty, life is far too difficult a journey to take alone. You need the support and connection with others to help carry you along the way. Writing brings me that connection– within and without. It clarifies my thoughts and feelings. It helps me reach out to others for advice, wisdom, or feedback. Your thoughts become your actions. Your actions become you. A wise yogi- Patanjali- said, “Speak what is true. Speak what is pleasant.” Let’s speak of things pleasant to one another and seek some peace of mind along the way. ABOUT Diane Ako joined Hawaii: In Real Life in October 2016. She likes being part of a community of local bloggers – people who like writing and sharing, like she does. Ako is an anchor/ reporter at Island News (KITV4 – ABC) in Honolulu. She previously anchored and reported at KHON2 (FOX) and KHNL (NBC), and at stations in California, New Mexico, and Pennsylvania, In between news jobs, in 2017, she launched and ran her own p.r. company, Diane Ako PR. From 2010-2014, she headed the public relations department at Halekulani Corporation, which oversees luxury resort Halekulani and boutique hotel Waikiki Parc. She’s been blogging since 2009 – before Hawaii: IRL, she wrote for The Honolulu Star-Advertiser, the state’s largest daily newspaper, where her stories garnered a dozen journalism awards and an Emmy nomination. Ako has a BA in Communications from Menlo College and an MA in Political Science from University of Hawaii at Manoa. One day, she might figure out how to put that master’s degree to use.

One thought on “Adolescent sees mom as less and less cool

  • October 30, 2018 at 7:23 pm
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    Gotta love her 💜💜💜

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